3.18.2009

London, Baby!


I'm leaving for London today! I've never been to the U.K. and could not be more excited! I'm so ready for a European holiday with no school work, nothing to do but soak up London; with it's old streets and incredible culture, shopping, chocolate, art... I'm looking forward to long days of drinking tea, wandering museums, people watching, Wicked, eating, shopping, riding the tube, seeing the crown jewels and the changing of the guards, spending a day in Bath, markets, pubs, and seeing Shannon. It's going to be a fabulously full week and I can't wait.

Heavy Metal

I confess. When I see a good looking man I instinctively and almost immediately check his left hand for a ring. Even though I can't believe that I just admitted that fact to the interwebs, I do believe that I am not alone both in the fact that I do this, and in the belief that male engagement rings are not such a bad idea. The reasons I am making this incredibly embarrassing confession are twofold. One, I got caught yesterday (in line at the coffee shop at school). And two, while I'm embarrassed to admit that I check for metal, I think that my argument for male engagement rings is at least somewhat valid. There are a handful of reasons why I think male engagement rings would be helpful, most of which are selfish, but more selflessly (and still true) is the fact that I respect the sanctity of marriage. I don't want to be checking out or developing a crush on someone's husband or fiance. I'm not Scarlett Johansson in He's Just Not That Into You. If a man's taken, he's taken. No problem. She's a lucky lady. Moving on. But if I don't know that, and he hasn't mentioned her, I'm in a grey area that if given the option, I'd prefer to avoid.

Getting caught got me thinking about this whole awkward early adulthood phenomenon. For starters, I actually remember the moment that this shift took place. I'd always sort of wondered in the back of my mind when I would actually start being attracted to men who might be married, and it was my second year of college. There was a guy on stage at church sharing about a missions trip he'd taken. He was so attractive, great smile, good jeans, good story teller, needless to say I quickly developed a harmless crush on him. After the service I caught a glimpse of him holding hands with a happy girl with a big fat rock on her finger. Of course he's engaged, I thought to myself; Why wouldn't he be. I felt really bad that I'd been checking him out, but how was I to know?! So I became aware that this was a reality. The men I am attracted to are now old enough to be married. Duly noted.

Fast forward to now. A graduate student at Fuller Seminary. Almost everyone in that world is married. For real. The single students in a marriage and family therapy program are few and far between, male and female alike. So I've been conditioned to take a little glance at the left hand before getting too excited that there is a cute guy with a southern accent to die for in my class who happens to be funny too. More often than not, metal.

It's okay with me that most people around me are married. Yes, I would like very much to be married, but my time will come for that. In all honesty, these men that strike my eye could be wearing a big fat sign that said "NORMAL, SINGLE, & LOOKING" and I still wouldn't strike up a conversation with them or turn up the flirty charm. Metal or no metal, I'm shy in that area. But it's the principal. I'd like to know.

Let's be honest. For the sake of my argument, I did a little research and the options for men are hideous. I will not ask (or want) my husband-to-be to wear any of these things. They are weird and awful and I don't care enough about the issue to present my fiance with a ruby to declare to the world that he is spoken for, no thank you. I'm just saying. For those of us who are single and trying to figure out if we're really the only ones left (I know, I exaggerate.) we'll take all the help we can get. And for the love of God, cute-guy-in-the-coffee-shop, don't strike up a conversation with me with your left hand in your pocket. That's just mean.

3.17.2009

Kiss me, I'm Irish!


The Irish Blessing

May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind always be at your back.

May the sun shine warm upon your face,

and rains fall soft upon your fields.

And until we meet again,

May God hold you in the palm of His hand.



Happy St. Patrick's day, one of my favorite days, to all my fellow proud Irish.


The Walshes don't mess around with St. Patrick's day. We go all out. We'd start out the day early, my brothers and I checking to see what the leprechauns did (after they visited us, of course). Those pesky little guys would make messes, spill their four leaf clover confetti all over the place, dye the toilet water green, and the milk, sugar, anything they could get their hands on. We'd have green bagels with green cream cheese, put on our St. Patrick's day clothes and head to school. My favorite St. patrick's day was when I was six and finally got the "white kitty" I'd been begging for for about 2 years. He was waiting for me when I woke up with a green bow. The leprechauns brought him. And no joke, at six, I named him Baileys Irish Cream; Bailey for short. We'd always have corned beef and cabbage for dinner, and whenever we could we'd go downtown to see the St. Patrick's day parade. The Walshes aren't the only ones who take St. Patrick's day seriously. Chicago loves March 17th, we're proud Irish who like a good reason to drink beer and get rowdy. Slainte! It never ceases to amaze my roommates that my aunts, uncles, grandparents, and parents send me cards on St. Patrick's day like it's Valentine's Day. So happy day to you. Unfortunately I won't be able to drink any green beer, I have my last final exam of the quarter tonight. But then I'm done and it's London, baby!


You might be a Redneck...

...if you call your dad on a Sunday afternoon and he tells you he shot a squirrel that morning. Right out of the tree next to the house. Apparently the squirrel was chewing big fat holes by the roof and causing thousands of dollars worth of damage to our beautiful old farmhouse with his dirty little friends. Naturally my dad grew increasingly annoyed, called his friend to bring over a pellet gun, set up a stake out and shot that sucker right out of the tree. When I asked him, through my laughter, if he was going to leave the little menace to society there as an example to the others his honest to God reply was "Of course." Yeah. To which my mom replied "He's such a hick. He goes up to the Michigan house to hang out with your brother and they're both just turning into straight up rednecks, shooting woodland creatures..." I love it.

You really might be a redneck if the reason you called your squirrel-hunting father in the first place was because the dog you were taking care of rolled repeatedly in a dead seagull and you wanted advice on how to proceed from there (Yes, I gave him a bath. The last thing I need right now is bird flu). I mean, I still love him, but, gross, Barkley. Really gross.

Here he is trying to look all innocent, outside doing time for the bird incident and drying off after his bath.

3.03.2009

Roses are Red, Violets are Blue...

I've never really considered myself to be much for poetry. I enjoy a well written verse, and in a very real way, there is a part of me that deeply envies an artist's ability to put words so eloquently and beautifully to the cries of his or her heart. But I get embarrassed for characters in movies or tv shows when a man reads a hokey poem to the woman he loves and she subsequently melts, as I can only picture myself in her shoes trying everything in my power not to laugh. Nevertheless, my graduate education may be paying off in ways that I was not anticipating. This quarter I'm in an Old Testament Writings class and have fallen in love with the poetic writings of the Old Testament. Psalms, Proverbs, Song of Songs, Ecclesiastes...I can't get enough. And through this (arguably much needed) expansion of my mind, I've been inspired to give other poetry of sorts another, more open-minded chance (reading-NOT writing). Though the poem I've copied below has little if anything to do with the current circumstances of my life, I vividly remember the day in high school that we read this poem in class. That was, truly, the first moment that I really appreciated the power of the written word on an entirely new level. I remember going home, reading and rereading, copying this poem down into a journal, for no real reason other than that I was in awe of the beauty and life of those words. In a way I'm not sure I even yet understand, the steady, passionate, confidence of John Donne's words tug at my heart strings even more now than then. I'm copying this, my favorite poem, below for no other reason than that I find it beautiful.

A VALEDICTION FORBIDDING MOURNING.
by John Donne

As virtuous men pass mildly away,
And whisper to their souls to go,
Whilst some of their sad friends do say,
"Now his breath goes," and some say, "No."

So let us melt, and make no noise,
No tear-floods, nor sigh-tempests move ;
'Twere profanation of our joys
To tell the laity our love.

Moving of th' earth brings harms and fears ;
Men reckon what it did, and meant ;
But trepidation of the spheres,
Though greater far, is innocent.

Dull sublunary lovers' love
—Whose soul is sense—cannot admit
Of absence, 'cause it doth remove
The thing which elemented it.

But we by a love so much refined,
That ourselves know not what it is,
Inter-assurèd of the mind,
Care less, eyes, lips and hands to miss.

Our two souls therefore, which are one,
Though I must go, endure not yet
A breach, but an expansion,
Like gold to aery thinness beat.

If they be two, they are two so
As stiff twin compasses are two ;
Thy soul, the fix'd foot, makes no show
To move, but doth, if th' other do.

And though it in the centre sit,
Yet, when the other far doth roam,
It leans, and hearkens after it,
And grows erect, as that comes home.

Such wilt thou be to me, who must,
Like th' other foot, obliquely run ;
Thy firmness makes my circle just,
And makes me end where I begun.


Source:
Donne, John. Poems of John Donne. vol I.
E. K. Chambers, ed.
London, Lawrence & Bullen, 1896. 51-52.